Fear of Marriage

Melanie717

Melanie717

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Has your mental health impacted your decision on whether or not you should get married? Did anxiety stand in your way?
Lack of confidence in supporting a family, fear of passing on mental illness to children, you name it.
Did you get married anyway?
 
I won't lie, I am very scared of getting married. I have seen people that were once cheerful and very happy as single people, turning out to become very miserable after they have gotten married. Some people would say that they married the wrong person. But how does one even know the right person?
 
Well, I did not want to get married. I I was afraid, I would lose my freedom, I was afraid I would have to work day and night just to provide for the family. I was afraid of responsibilities. But then I got married and the fear vanished. I think it is very common for people to be afraid of marriage because it demands a lot of commitments and responsibilities.
 
Nomad said:
Well, I did not want to get married. I I was afraid, I would lose my freedom, I was afraid I would have to work day and night just to provide for the family. I was afraid of responsibilities. But then I got married and the fear vanished. I think it is very common for people to be afraid of marriage because it demands a lot of commitments and responsibilities.
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I am not even afraid of responsibilities. As a woman, it is demanded that you submit to your husband. My fear is in choosing a terrible person. I would have to submit to him regardless. And that would mean I have jeopardized my life. And I don't ever want to marry and divorce.
 
Fidelia said:
I am not even afraid of responsibilities. As a woman, it is demanded that you submit to your husband. My fear is in choosing a terrible person. I would have to submit to him regardless. And that would mean I have jeopardized my life. And I don't ever want to marry and divorce.
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Well, as someone who has been married with two kids, I can tell you if you are married to the right person, you will be a happiest person in the world and if you are in a bad marriage, you will be the saddest person.
 
I’m not married, but I don’t have fear. Marriage is a significant commitment, and while I understand why some may feel anxious about it, I see it as a personal journey that depends on mutual understanding, readiness, and shared values.
 
Melanie717 said:
Has your mental health impacted your decision on whether or not you should get married? Did anxiety stand in your way?
Lack of confidence in supporting a family, fear of passing on mental illness to children, you name it.
Did you get married anyway?
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No. I’ve been married twice in the past. I don’t see myself getting married again, but I will date again.

My mental health didn’t affect my marriages.
 
I am still scared of getting married. The fear of responsibility is what is making me scared of marriage. I can't just reconcile with my mind that I would be absolutely financially responsible for other people. It scares me to the bones and that is why I am taking my time to overcome that fear.
 
If I love the man and he loves me too, there is reason for me to feel afraid of marrying. It can be scary if it is an arranged marriage but if not, happiness is felt. Counseling also helps the couple if marriage is for them to traverse or not. It is essential to get to know each other first to avoid regrets of breakup.
 
In most of cases marriage is based on pros or cons to get married to this person. Families want this boy marry this girl in most of the cases and in general getting married with person you love is reducing rate these days.
 
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