Self-Abuse

[Howard]

Self-abuse, sadly, is something that is very normalized in our culture. We are taught to call ourselves weak when we mess up, lazy and worthless if we aren't living up to the standards imposed by other people.

You do not have to say any of these things to yourself. You are worthy and your feelings are valid. Show yourself compassion when you make a mistake.

It is not easy at first. It takes time and consistent practice to unlearn years of harmful conditioning.

With that being said, it is possible, and also extremely necessary.

 

[Arnold]

We self-destruct because our culture and society tell us to do so. Our culture and society do not like us when we are proud of ourselves, when we praise ourselves, when we love ourselves when we pamper ourselves, and when we challenge the existing norms.

 

[Shree]

Self-abuse, often referred to as self-harm, is the intentional act of causing physical pain or injury to oneself, typically as a way to cope with overwhelming emotions like sadness, anger, or anxiety. It can take various forms, such as cutting, burning, or hitting oneself. People who engage in self-abuse often feel a temporary sense of relief or control, but it usually exacerbates emotional distress in the long run. It can be a sign of underlying mental health issues like depression, trauma, or borderline personality disorder.

 

[Hazel]

I’ve felt that pressure too, like I'm not enough unless I'm constantly achieving. Our culture often equates worth with productivity, and that internalized criticism becomes self-abuse. Healing starts when we replace harsh self-talk with compassion and redefine success personally.