When parents are not a team?

[arunima]

A little bit of parenting differences are ought to come in any family with kids. It's very natural as both parents are different people with different personalities, different backgrounds and havd different experiences from their own parents and carry different baggage from their earlier lives. But for a healthy upbringing of the children, both parents need to come together and work as a team. They have to talk and find a path that they both would stick to. There are families where one can easily notice that the parenting is not going in a rhythm. This becomes a big issue though it does not seem troublesome to start with. And I am not talking about families where the marriage or relationship between parents is not good, it happens in a very normal functional family too. And if not addressed in time, it can very soon turn a functional family into one with dysfunctional parenting.

Children ,even the younger ones are smart enough to notice these differences. They can trick and manipulate parents easily. And in longer run, this doesn't help with a right and healthy upbringing.
Your thoughts on it.

 

[Nomad]

I have two kids, the oldest one is 4th grader and the youngest one is yet to start formal education. I try to become provider for them, I buy the toys, I take them for outings, I buy them things they want to eat, I take them to classes where they can learn creative arts, sports, or even robotics. My wife on the other hand help with studies, teach social skills, and introduce manner. We have shared responsibilities when it comes to parenting, and that works perfectly well for us.

 

[Fidelia]

I once saw a mom and a dad fight publicly. And the four year old son was just standing there crying. I just felt how traumatised that boy would be growing up from that single experience. Any two people that have a child together should never allow their misunderstandings to happen obvious enough for the kids to notice.