Why does it actually matter when someone says good or bad things about you?

[JonSnow]

There is this guy in my workplace who says bad things about me, and I hate him. He has not done any personal harms to me but he speaks bad things about me. Then there is also a good guy who talks good things about me and I absolutely like him. This guy has not done any thing that has helped me, but I like him.

When someone says good things or bad things about you, why does it actually matter when it has nothing to do with your personal or professional life.

Do you like someone just because he/she has said something good about you, or do you hate someone just because he/she has said bad things about you?

 

[Ciri]

It matters because you are emotionally affected. It is important to remain emotionally fit, emotional wellbeing is as important as mental wellbeing and physical well being. It is not possible to remain untouched if someone says good things or bad things. If you are not untouched, you are God.

There is a popular story about the Buddha. A man walks to the Buddha and says a lot of bad things but the Buddha does not reach. The man walks away but soon begins to repent. He runs back to the Buddha and asks for forgiveness. We are not Buddha or Jesus to be forgiving when we are hurt by someone's bad words.

 

[Ja sa bong]

In my book, what matters to me is what I talk about myself personally. Whatever another human being deem right to air his or her opinion about my life is there business alone which I would never care about to know.

 

[bharath]

These types of people exists everywhere, but what I suggest is to ifnore the one who speaks bad about you since we feel bad in our heart.These words wont go from our heart and they do come repeatedly even we are not meeting. We find many other people who likes us if we often help them.

 

[Ravenfreak]

Unfortunately there's always going to be people that don't like you for whatever reason. We don't want to hear negative things about ourselves, it lowers our self-esteem and if you have bad self esteem already, it can be truly devastating. It's best to ignore those who try to bring you down. If it becomes too much at work then it's best to get your supervisor involved.

 

[Heatman]

If you start listening to gossips that's flying around with your name, if you're not the strong type of person, it would turn you into an introvert immediately because of the shame it's going to come with. This is why what other people say about me doesn't matter to me one bit.

 

[Howard]

It matters, that's how we are brought us. When someone says good things, it makes us happy, when someone says bad things, it makes us sad. We are human beings, we have human emotions, we become happy with small things, and we become sad with small things. The only thing that is not good is overreacting. We should not overreach to any things, whether it is good or bad.

 

[JackSparrow]

The day we are untouched by good things and bad things we become God. Only God can remain untouched by emotions and situations. As long as we are humans, we are prone to react.

 

[Arnold]

Words are more powerful than actions because if you get cut, the wound will heal but it someone's bad words leave a deep scar inside you, it might never heal, even if it heals it will take a long time to heal.

 

[Heatman]

Personally, I don't care much about what other people say about me. It doesn't take anything away from me. Unless someone goes out of his to slander my name, then I will sue him for damages.

 

[Teri W]

It gets to me when one says bad things about me. The person projects me in negative light which might affect my opportunities with other people. That's why I would feel pained when someone says bad things about me. And I would definitely dislike such a person.

 

[Noble]

No I don't allow people words to define me . I always try to live by my way of thinking and things that has to do with me. I don't care about others opinions

 

[Faith]

I think that, deep down, to some extent we all care about what others think of us. We might like to put up an exterior that we don't care, or shrug things off if people have a negative attitude towards us, but for most people ultimately they will think on it and socially adapt their behaviour to "fit in". Where some people with mental health struggles will struggle specifically with this is reading body language and visual cues that others give off to make an assessment of their impressions they're giving off.

 

[Fidelia]

No matter how much we might try to look strong, we always care what people are saying about us. It affects our self esteem and to a large extent, our confidence. You might feel so lowly if someone says about you, that you are a very dull person. It even gets worse when it comes from family members and friends.

 

[Shree]

It matters because words influence emotions, self-perception, and social interactions. Praise can boost confidence, while criticism—especially unfair—can hurt. Humans naturally seek validation and belonging, so opinions affect us. However, what truly matters is how we process them.