Battling with the fear of having kids?

[Heatman]

There are some people who are child free by choice. They are not interested in having kids in their relationship and marriage for one reason or another. On the other hand, there are some who wants to have kids but have heard so many things that makes it very challenging, now it's giving them a lot of frightening thoughts if they can actually pull it off.

How do they get over this moment of fearful thoughts?

 

[Hazel]

Fear of having kids is natural and common. It often stems from concerns about responsibility, financial stability, and parenting ability. It helps to talk openly with your partner, seek advice, and educate yourself about the challenges and rewards of parenthood.

 

[Commode K]

If someone doesn't see the positive in having kids, there is absolutely no need to force them into it. The only thing is to make them appreciate kids and be positive about having them regardless of the fears that they harbour. That would prepare their mind and give them a positive outlook towards having kids.

 

[Shree]

It's normal to feel scared about having kids. Concerns about readiness, finances, or being a good parent are common. Talking it out with loved ones or a therapist can help ease the fear and bring perspective.

 

[Shortie]

Having a fear of having kids is only natural, it is a big thing to take on having a baby and bringing a child up, especially in the world we live in today. The cost of bringing up a child, the worries of what is happening in the world and the uncertainty of the future are all big factors.

I do know that some people choose not to have kids because they are the type who wants to live their life and feel they do not have a place in their life for a child and that is perfectly fine, my auntie and my younger brother are two people I know of who would rather have pets and that is how they have stayed.

 

[Nomad]

When I was single, I did not want to get married, I did not like kids. However, once I got married, everything became normal, these days I not only dearly love my kids but even like kids. The fear of having kids can be normal because a lot of people are afraid to take responsibility of childcare.

 

[BrighterDays]

Well first off fearing having kids is a good thing, it means you care and that you want to do a good job. If you didn't care then I'd be worried. What I would suggest is to go to any support places for families and maybe ask them some questions, possibly get a therapist and talk things out with them. Talk to early education childcare they can help you as well. Being nervous and having a bit of fear is normal and is good. I used to fear having children myself because I didn't want to pass on trauma or family addictions but I realized that it's all on how I raise my child(ren) and the resources, love and affection I give them.

My boyfriend has been extremely supportive also when it comes to us talking about having kids eventually. It's something we both and though I do still worry a bit it's good fear. I just want to make sure I'm the best mom I can be and that means working on myself and the relationship with my boyfriend for now. Once we are married we will then start to have children and I'm sure though I'm nervous and a bit terrified, I'll do a great job because I do care.